The Mood Hoover

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Everyone spends time in both areas of concern and influence but the question is ‘Where do you spend most of your time? They may not feel confident in themselves or their abilities, so they seek external validation and attention to fill this void. No matter how great your vision is or how positive you are, if you want your team to succeed, you need to manage “mood hoovers” within your team. If a mood hoover is unable to blame somebody else for their failure, you’ll notice they quickly pivot to pointing out the unreasonable behaviour or actions of another as an excuse. Then the girl offered Stan a lolly - and the machine exploded covering them both with all the loveliness that Sam had been hoovering up.

But, hopefully this article has allowed people to reflect on such interactions and understand that if they don’t challenge it, it is at least important to make sure your own mood is affected, overall, in as little way as possible. We don’t share your credit card details with third-party sellers, and we don’t sell your information to others. Her head was constantly down and rather than viewing the world in any kind of positive light, she seemed to view everything through gloomy, grimy glasses.However, don’t we all know that often the mood hoover is often the one whose performance struggles to be the better side of acceptable? During the last 12 months I’ve felt very grateful that I no longer work in a couple of my previous schools. Prevention is better than cure, says Helen Witt, who recommends using your recruitment process to prevent you hiring mood hoovers people in the first place. You don’t need to jettison the entire contents of your little black book, just think about when you have the most energy and are better able to manage negativity when planning your time.

Encouraging self reflection and honesty may help them understand how they are perceived to others and they may make positive changes on their own. It’s important to be sure there is no substance within the work environment contributing to the employee’s negative attitude. It’s important to remember that mood hoovers are not necessarily bad people, and they may not show all of these traits at once, but if you start spotting these on a regular basis within your organisation then you may need to act. Darrell started to see his negative behaviours and how he would feel good at one point but then pivot back to being grumpy and miserable.Every sentence starts with, “The problem is” or “I don’t think you’ve thought this through” or “I’m not doing that”. If the ratio isn’t working out in your favour and you’re beginning to feel dragged down, consider limiting the amount of time that you spend around people who drain your energy.

They suck the mood out of others and can contribute to poor morale, low performance, a toxic blame culture, mistrust, and a lack of cooperation across a team.In everyone’s lives, I think it is important to find our own ways of staying positive and happy, and whatever way works should be used to fight out any negativity that may come into our lives, by whatever means that is. Has your DH tried therapy or been to the GP, is he even aware of how you're feeling about his moods? If you frequently find yourself in a situation where you’re surrounded by negativity, in the office, with friends or even at home, here’s our quick survival guide to managing mood hoovers. Just like that so if you say anything you end up looking like the bad person trying to exclude them. By setting boundaries and using the other practices I’ve discussed in this article, you can maintain your well-being and navigate difficult interactions more easily.

You know full well that they’ll be straight on WhatsApp groups after school to moan about something. With no outstanding issues of any merit to excuse mood-hoovering behaviour then it really becomes important to manage this fairly but firmly.A mood hoover won’t accept responsibility for their own failures and may try to blame someone or something else for missed deadlines, poor performance or conflicts. If you work, get yourself a sensible development plan taking into account when the kids go into F/T education. Kicking the can down the road by planning to get through the next two years somehow is not going to help you nor for that matter your children.