A Good Spanking

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It should never be used for infants, and rarely for older kids with better communication abilities. Spanking therapy is not necessarily sexual, and some people may see it in a similar way to other forms of physical therapy. Others may see it as a more ritualistic experience. Spiritual experience: Some people report that SM practices alter their state of consciousness, providing them with a sense of connection, wholeness, and mind expansion. Removal of privileges. For example, if your child keeps pushing people while playing, take the toy away for now and tell them why.

Logical consequences. Tell the child to clean up a mess they made, fix something they broke, or pay for a broken thing they can't fix. This teaches them to fix their own mistakes. (If they are too young to clean or pay for it, you can do it together with them.) https://journalofpositivesexuality.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/Parallels-Between-BDSM-and-Extreme-Ritual-Sagarin-Lee-Klement.pdf Labrecque, F., et al. (2020). What is so appealing about being spanked, flogged, dominated, or restrained? Answers from practitioners of sexual masochism/submission. It is meant to send a strong message, not to be used on a daily basis. And it should never be motivated by anger or meant to illicit feelings of shame or guilt. Statement by international health organizationsin support of prohibition and elimination of all corporal punishment of children.(n.d.)

The following are answers to common questions about spanking therapy. Is spanking therapy always sexual? Escapism or sense of adventure: People may find spanking therapy a way to change their routine and elevate their experience from mundane or everyday matters. http://goodparent.org/corporal-punishment/research-on-corporal-punishment/evidence-favoring-the-use-of-disciplinary-spanking/#_ednref1

But if spanking is an accepted form of punishment in your home, what are the chances that in a moment of anger you might lapse and resort to this punishment when you shouldn’t, or more aggressively than you should?Beyond just being pleasurable, spanking can also be connected to memories, a psychological theory known as ‘imprinting’ (no, not in the way it’s described in the Twilight books). Look at non-physical consequences. Firmly and patiently tell them what needs to happen. Spanking should never be a first resort, and there are other ways to handle misbehavior. [2] X Research source [3] X Research source [4] X Research source [5] X Research source Smith, B. L. (2012, April). The case against spanking. American Psychological Association, 43(4),60 Give a choice. Let the child choose between two or three options that you are okay with. For example, if your child is resisting getting dressed, say "You can put on your shirt first or your pants first."

However this is not the only reason people have a desire to be spanked as there are several other psychological theories which state other ideas. Reclaiming or relinquishing power through the act of spanking may help some people regain psychological control over past traumatic events. University of Texas at Austin. (2016, April25). Risks of harm from spanking confirmed by analysis of 5 decades ofresearch. [Press release]Very helpful for overactive thinkers, like me. I also enjoy admiring my stripes and bruises the next day, if I’ve been spanked very hard (perhaps with a hairbrush or a paddle). http://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/four-in-five-americans-believe-parents-spanking-their-children-is-sometimes-appropriate-225314281.html Sagarin, B. J., et al. (2015). Sadomasochism without sex? Exploring the parallels between BDSM and extreme rituals.

Firmly say no. Give a short, clear response to them in a stern voice. For example, "We do not throw snowballs at people's faces." You’ll be hard-pressed to find any large-scale research that shows spanking to be effective in changing behavior and having no negative effects. But there are some studies out there that suggest spanking administered by “loving, well-intentioned parents” in a “nonabusive, disciplinary” environment can be an effective form of punishment. It usually occurs around a particular traumatic episode, which is then stamped into the child’s psyche,’ Dr Spelman explains. Begin the spanking. Strike the child's bottom gently, never hit hard. It doesn't take a lot of force to successfully discipline your child, and hitting too hard can cause injury or trauma. Plus, the symbolism of the act is just as important as the actual pain inflicted. Not hitting too hard is even more important with a spanking on the bare bottom and/or younger children.Classical conditioning is a type of behaviourism that falls within this area, and acts an automatic response to prior learning – i.e. the spanking can be linked to something you’ve experienced in the past. Individuals may find it provides a new experience and a release from their everyday selves and responsibilities. Why might people like being spanked? According to an article in The Journal of Sex Research, people may engage in spanking therapy for a range of reasons, such as : De Neef., et al. (2019). Bondage-discipline, dominance-submission and sadomasochism (BDSM) from an integrative biopsychosocial perspective: A systematic review. Stress release: Individuals may find similar benefits from spanking therapy as those from mindful activities, such as meditation.