Women Who Think Too Much: How to break free of overthinking and reclaim your life

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You’re not the same as you were before,” he said. You were much more… muchier… you’ve lost your muchness.” – Lewis Carroll, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland & Through the Looking-Glass I loved that moment in the 2010 film version of Alice in Wonderland when the Mad Hatter told Alice she’d lost her “muchness.”

Atkinson and Hilgard's Introduction to Psychology 15th Ed.. Wadsworth Cengage Learning: EMEA, 2009.Widiger, Thomas; Cannon, Tyrone D. (March 2013), "In Memoriam: Susan Nolen-Hoeksema", Annual Review of Clinical Psychology, 9 (1), doi: 10.1146/annurev-cp-9-031513-100001 Autorė papasakoja, kodėl "overthinking" būdingas būtent moterims, kokios jo priežastys, kaip jį atpažinti, kokiomis priemonėmis sustabdyti ir jo išvengti. Probably THE most relatable book I’ve ever read. I will probably read it over and over! One of those books that makes you say - So it’s not just me! usually centers on some wrong we believe has been done to us. Women prone to this kind of overthinking tend to take on an air of wounded self-righteousness and focus on designing retribution that will severely sting our victimizers. Bottom line: If someone is giving you the message that you’re “too much” in some way, be aware that that person has likely disowned that part within themselves and is now projecting that unwanted attribute/characteristic onto you. In this way, it says far more about the person delivering the message and what they believe is acceptable or unacceptable for themselves than it does about you personally.

But what if you weren’t too much? What if it said far more about the people delivering the messages than about you? What if you could believe something different and really embrace your “muchness”? We as women still, sadly, live in a world that would sooner see us small, quiet, and pleasing than to be “too much” of anything, really.This groundbreaking book, written in a vivid narrative style that captures the complexities of women's lives today, explains how the three core problems of the Toxic Triangle reinforce one another, wreaking havoc on women's emotional well ... Book Genre: Business, Feminism, Health, Mental Health, Nonfiction, Personal Development, Psychology, Self Help, Womens Problem-solving can lead to productive action. Overthinking, on the other hand, fuels uncomfortable emotions and doesn’t look for solutions. Experiencing Repetitive Thoughts

Overthinking can take a toll on your mood and may make it even more difficult to make decisions in the future. Types of Overthinking These messages may have come from our families, our teachers, our coaches, our siblings and peers, and then later, our lovers, co-workers, and even our in-laws. And certainly, all of us growing up as a woman in this world received some version of these messages from society as a collective. Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” – Carl JungI thought this was a great book with a lot of valuable information. The concepts mirror the concepts that we try to use in the acceptance and commitment therapy model so it definitely makes sense. I don’t think reading this book one time really does it Justice and I will absolutely re-read in the future. Nolen-Hoeksema, Susan (2010). The Power of Women: Harness Your Unique Strengths at Home, at Work, and in Your Community. Times Books. ISBN 978-0805088670. To be fair, this book was slightly off-topic from what I was looking for help with so while I didn't find the advice useful in a lot of ways that could be why. This book is mostly about how modern women can get caught in cycles of overthinking and obsessing over stressful situations and how to break out of that cycle. My issue that I was looking for help with was how to re-train my brain to recall happy memories more easily in place of recalling unpleasant past experiences. There was some advice that crossed over but a lot of it seemed inapplicable. It's no surprise that our fast-paced, overly self-analytical culture is pushing many people—especially women—to spend countless hours thinking about negative ideas, feelings, and experiences. Renowned psychologist Dr. Susan Nolen-Hoeksema calls this overthinking, and her groundbreaking research shows that an increasing number of women—more than half of those in her extensive study—are doing it too much and too often, leading to sadness, anxiety, and depression. She challenges the assumption—heralded by so many pop-psychology pundits of the last several decades—that constantly expressing and analyzing our emotions is a good thing.

With the negativity laid out, I am a severe over thinker. I go crazy prattling on in my mind about something simple and insignificant. This overthinking could have started with a conversation I had that I felt went negatively and explode to why I have no friends. This is dramatic of course, but has unfortunately happened. It was nice to hear this was normal and more common in women. I know if I tell my boyfriend or father about something I am worried about they think I'm crazy and weird for worrying about something so trivial. Michl LC, McLaughlin KA, Shepherd K, Nolen-Hoeksema S. Rumination as a mechanism linking stressful life events to symptoms of depression and anxiety: longitudinal evidence in early adolescents and adults. J Abnorm Psychol. 2013;122(2):339-52. doi:10.1037/a0031994Along the way she published scores of studies and a popular textbook. In 2003 she became the editor of the Annual Review of Clinical Psychology, an influential journal. It pulls factual evidence on women's pay, women's rights etc. and states it as the cause for depression or overthinking. I could do that with anything, oh women eat porridge for breakfast, the porridge must be causing the overthinking. That said, I did appreciate the straightforward manner that Nolen-Hoeksema approaches the over thinking problem and practical tips for managing it. As a chronic ruminator, it was helpful to me to realize that I am not solving problems by thinking about them all the time; instead I am making them worse. Obviously not all of her tips for managing negative thoughts will work for everyone but I think some deserve attention and implementation.