He's Not Lazy: Empowering Your Son to Believe in Himself

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WILLY (angrily) : What’re you talking about? With scholarships to three universities they’re gonna flunk him?

I will say that for people low in industriousness it is very important that they find something that interests them, that they're motivated on their own to pursue that interest, and that they receive support from friends and family in pursuing those interests. Someone very high in industriousness can work with the most meaningless tasks imaginable and still be content. Someone low in industriousness cannot.Let them win a few and they will grow and gain confidence. Dumbing then down to “do” school seems beyond counterintuitive. WILLY: If old man Wagner was alive I’d a been in charge of New York now! That man was a prince, he was a masterful man. But that boy of his, that Howard, he don’t appreciate . When I went north the first time, the Wagner Company didn’t know where New England was! LINDA: He was crestfallen, Willy. You know how he admires you . I think if he finds himself, then you’ll both be happier and not fight any more.

WILLY (smiling): Well, I figure, what the hell, life is short, a couple of jokes. (To himself.) I joke too much (The smile goes.) Also, and importantly, they have some kind of issues where they are super immersed in their kid's life, like they get all their self-esteem from their kids accomplishments. They need their kids to get into "good colleges". (This is so foreign to me, it may as well be written by an alien)But if it does resonate, and if you want to dive deeper, find a copy of the book Driven To Distraction by Edward M. Hallowell and John J. Ratey. It was their later book "Delivered From Distraction", which is more about adult ADHD, that helped me find my way. It might be of note that I was diagnosed with A.D.D. in the fourth grade and subsequently on Ritalin and eventually Wellbutrin. Both of which I forewent upon graduation of high school.

LINDA ( helpfully): Oh. Maybe it was the steering again , I don't think Angelo knows the Studebaker. You have to make it clear to the child what is expected of him. This is the academic standard you think he is capable of. This is the reward if he achieves it. This is the consequence if he does not. HAPPY ( getting out of bed): He’s going to get his license taken away if he keeps that up. I’m getting nervous about him, y’know, Biff? While a completely agree that we need to keep investigating gender differences both in brain biology, behavior and the like, and that such differences exist his approach was gross. Additionally, what about our LGBTQ boys that approach their transformation into sexual beings in perhaps a different way? Or our girls that are opt-outs for (other) reasons that compare to their male counterparts that Price has completely alienated. A lot of people think that if you have ADHD, then it's an all or nothing thing in terms of focus and distractibility. They say things like, "Well, if he can focus so well on a video game, then he can't have ADHD", or "he's not always distracted, so he can't have ADHD", but that's simply not true. People with Inattentive ADHD can focus, and can even hyperfocus to the exclusion of just about anything else, if the conditions are right. ADHD is what's called an "executive dysfunction", which means that it's a brain-based impairment that impacts a person’s ability to analyze, organize, decide, and execute things on time. It causes assignments to be lost, deadlines to be missed, and projects to overwhelm.This was a perfectly fine book but I don't think you need to read it. It's written for a VERY SPECIFIC audience and I don't know anyone in it. WILLY: But I gotta be at it ten, twelve hours a day. Other men —I don’t know — they do it easier. I don’t know why — I can’t In He’s Not Lazy, Dr. Price, a renowned expert on ADHD and learning disabilities, explains how to help a boy who is not lazy, but rather, is conflicted about trying his best. Dr. Price will guide you to discover hidden obstacles to your son’s success, set expectations, and empower him to accept responsibility for his own future. From personal experience, I had a hard work ethic in middle school, tried my best at everything I could, but by the time High School came around I had become quite opinionated. There were subjects that were interesting where I had unlimited energy to spend (math/ physics) and there were subjects which I grudgingly did very poorly (history).

HAPPY ( moving about with energy, expressiveness) : All I can do now is wait for the merchandise manager to die. And suppose I get to be merchandise manager? He’s a good friend of mine, and he just built a terrific estate on Long Island. And he lived there about two months and sold it, and now he’s building another one. He can’t enjoy it once it’s finished. And I know that’s just what I would do. I don’t know what the hell I’m workin’ for. Sometimes I sit in my apartment — all alone. And I think of the rent I’m paying. And it’s crazy. But then, it’s what I always wanted. My own apartment, a car, and plenty of women. And still, goddammit, I’m lonely. LINDA: And Willy — if it’s warm Sunday we’ll drive in the country. And we’ll open the windshield, and take lunch.Despite my parents best efforts I just couldn't see the value in handing in homework on time and would rather focus on learning new things in the subjects i thought were cool. All relationships and I do mean all of them revolve around power. This even includes the one you have with your dog. BERNARD (wiping his glasses): Just because he printed University of Virginia on his sneakers doesn’t mean they’ve got to graduate him . Uncle Willy! Though on the outside, they look like they’re impervious to academic pressures, in fact their behavior is a direct response to the stress they’re experiencing. Contrary to appearances, these kids aren’t just lazy—they’re overcome by demands that they fear they simply cannot meet. And so, in the face of pressures they feel they cannot handle, they choose to “opt-out” of the competition altogether. These “opt-outs” are the subject of this book.