Don't Hold My Head Down

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Holmesin seksimatkan mullistavin yksittäinen oivallus oli se, että hän halusi ja nautti hitaammasta seksistä sekä itsensä että muiden kanssa. I had a moment early on when I met with an editor to discuss it and she looked at me baffled and said ‘why would you want to write about this?’ as though I was mad to want to share all this stuff about sex. And another editor who I felt was trying to steer the thrust of the book away from what I had in mind. But, I had been campaigning for two and a half years at the time, going around the country talking about porn, sex, body image and some of my own experiences that are in the book, and the response was generally a group of people afterwards wanting to talk about it more, or saying how inspiring it was to hear someone talk so frankly about sex and porn.

I pledged for this book on Unbound, so I'm not exactly an objective reviewer. That said, I only chose Holmes's book because another project fell through and I had credits to spare. And boy, did I make the right decision. Lähdin lukemaan tätä odottaen hauskaa seksikirjaa — sain niin paljon enemmän. Holmes kirjoittaa yhteiskunnallisesti erittäin tärkeistä aiheista, kuten siitä, miten porno on miesten miehille tekemää, eikä naisten mielipiteitä, toiveita tai haluja kuulla tai nähdä siinä. Moni nainen harrastaa surkeaa seksiä, koska ei ole edes oppinut, että voisi itse olla aktiivinen toimija ja kertoa, mitä haluaa ja mitä ei. Naisten seksuaalisuutta on kontrolloitu vuosituhannet, joten onko se ihme. Edes naiskehon anatomiaa ei ole haluttu ymmärtää, eihän siitä ole kovin montaa vuotta kun vasta klitoriksen todellinen koko ja muoto paljastui. Entä moniko tietää, että naisella on 14 eri tapaa saada orgasmi? Missä näistä puhuttaisiin naisten äänellä, naisten näkökulmasta, naisia varten? Ei juuri missään. Don’t Hold Your Head Down: Don’t hold your head down in a negative way. Instead, keep it up and focus on the positive. This helps you stay positive and look forward to the future. When you hold your head down, you are sending a negative message, which can affect how others perceive you and your attitude. Instead, keep your chin up and your eyes forward and try to stay optimistic and motivated. Sitten se mutta: miksi siitä seksuaalisuudesta täytyy jotenkin aina kertoa niin hassunhauskan huumorin keinoin? Holmesin tapa kirjoittaa, eli siis lähinnä vitsailla, ei iskenyt itseeni sitten yhtään. (Myöskään muut vähän samaa aihepiiriä sivuavat viime aikoina ilmestyneet kirjat kuten Runkkarin käsikirja tai Himokirja eivät vaan mitenkään tyyliltään viehätä, olen yrittänyt lukea niitä, mutta en päässyt ekaa kymmentä sivua pidemmälle.) En tarkoita, että tahtoisin lukea pelkkää kuivakkaa asiatekstiä seksistä, ehei en ollenkaan, mutta jotenkin sellainen humoristinen kepeä vähän ”itsekriittinen” ja -tarkkaileva sävy on vaan niin väsynyttä. Tai ehkä Holmesin tapauksessa emme vain ole samalla viivalla ajatuksissamme, TAI suomennos hukkasi jotain. There is such a lot here to consider, and to take - as a counsellor who has worked with survivors of sexual abuse, consent has always been something that I am familiar with but here, in a section on BDSM, there is an explanation of the consent wheel, which is just fabulous. It takes the idea of explicit consent much further, also demonstrating that within sexual encounters, each partner can slide between the various stages of the wheel throughout their encounter.Bob Mortimer wins 2023 Bollinger Everyman Wodehouse Prize for Comic Fiction with The Satsuma Complex paina päätäni alas kertoo kirjoittajan matkasta keskinkertaisesta, epänautinnollisesta seksistä kohti "mieletöntä", hänelle sopivaa seksielämää. Monipuolinen matka kulkee toivelistojen, tantrakurssien, ihmissuhteiden, seksileirien ja lopulta myös raskauden sekä synnytyksen kautta. The initiative also encourages people to reach out to mental health professionals if they are struggling with their mental health. By seeking professional help, people can get the support they need to manage their mental health and lead healthier and happier lives. Conclusion Dystopian Fiction Books Everyone Should Read: Explore The Darker Side of Possible Worlds and Alternative Futures I remember saying ‘if I find a publisher who gets it’ then I will go with them. And Unbound just totally got it. I met John Mithcinson and had a really long chat and he seemed to think it was a funny, exciting and necessary book, as did I. I definitely feel I am in the right place. When I told my agent, Rowan Lawton, that I was going with Unbound, she said she was pleased, as she feared that going the traditional route would have meant me having to make compromises I didn’t want to make over the content, title and cover. 2) How has the experience compared to publishing traditionally?

Wow, what a refreshing book! This month, I attended the Unbound proof party at Cheltenham Literature Festival, where Lucy-Anne was one of the authors, discussing her imminent memoir. The event was memorable for a few reasons, one of them being the response that it elicited from an older lady, who was sharing the table I was sitting at: she clearly didn't approve of such a book. But, for me, this event will be memorable as the time that I accidentally came across a book that I was perhaps waiting years to read, whether I realised it or not. Lucy previously published traditionally. Here, Norah interviews Lucy about why she decided to publish her book with Unbound. 1) What appealed to you the most about working with Unbound? In addition, by creating an environment in which people are more likely to be open and honest about their mental health, the initiative hopes to create a more productive and positive environment for the music industry. By creating an understanding and accepting culture, the initiative hopes to create a space in which people are more likely to be able to focus on their work and create meaningful music. How Can You Help? Now, I may be making potential Unbounders run a mile here but actually, I think the experience this is giving me is absolutely brilliant. I remember after my fourth novel I felt I couldn’t write another straight away, I wanted to be ‘in the world’ again. Writing is a solitary pursuit and you can just get lost in your own head and the screen. This crowd funding model of publishing forces you to be out there talking about your book, and I’m enjoying the connections I’m making and gaining confidence from doing this. Don’t hold my head down by Lucy-Anne Holmes https://bookshop.quaker.org.uk/Dont-Hold-My-Head-Down_9781783526215

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Kirjassa Holmes käy omaelämäkertamaisesti läpi omaa seksuaalista matkaansa ja seikkailujaan hauskalla ja viihteellisellä tyylillä, ja yhdistää sitten kokemuksensa tiukkaan yhteiskunta-analyysiin ja paukuttaa naisten seksuaaliseen asemaan liittyvät ongelmakohdat ja faktat tiskiin. Don’t Hold My Head Down is comical and written in that incredibly chatty, almost babbling, way that makes it feel like reading a letter from a friend. But there were times when the text could do with being more honed and I found some of the sentences a bit too long and the joke too drawn out. Now don’t get me wrong, I can waffle with the best of them ( Northern Soul’s lovely Editor will attest to this) but sometimes less is more.

Erityisesti tää ihmetytti, koska usein oltiin ihmiselämän isojen asioiden äärellä, kuten esimerkiksi seksistä kommunikoimisen ja sen, millainen naiskuva pornossa, mediassa ja yhteiskunnassa ylipäätänsä on ja miten se vaikuttaa ihan meidän perustavisten arkeen (tiedostetusti ja tiedostamattakin).The Don’t Hold My Head Down initiative is not only beneficial for those struggling with their mental health, but it can also be beneficial for the music industry as a whole. By reducing the stigma around mental health, the initiative hopes to create an environment in which people are more likely to seek help and support for their mental health needs. Ooo where to start?… Well, this book is quite particular and I knew fairly early on that it wasn’t going to handily fit into a traditional publishing genre, unless ‘explicit comedy memoir with a bit of how to and self help and feminist natter thrown in’ became a genre.