I Hate You - Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

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Particularly drawn to highly structured situations, or the helping professions like medicine, nursing, or counseling, they seem unable to adapt when any job becomes too undirected.

Rather than being from a place of compassion, empathy, or understanding this book feels like it was written as if BPD was a spectator sport.

His Freudian bent is made clearer by his reliance on Christopher Lasch's Culture of Narcissism, a text in which Lasch expressed his belief that modern child-raising had interfered with the "natural" attachment of mother and child, necessary, in his mind, for a healthy culture. The Spelling and Grammar editing wasn't awful, actually, but that's about all that wasn't utter trash. Being a patient myself I found the personal stories of other BPDs and explanations of our conducts to be really good and felt like looking at myself in the mirror. This book so far as I’m more than half way through puts all the blame with the sufferer and that’s a hopeless approach as we may as well end our lives if all the suffering is put back on us, as you’ve done. Is it not possible to keep your conservative, bigoted opinions to yourself in this “scientific” book?

Some parts of the book reminded me of listening to an old white man ramble and rant about the problems of the world these days. Yet, oddly, when you do praise them, they brush it suspiciously or distrustfully aside, refusing to accept their good qualities, explaining them away.A brief knowledge of unpopular mental illnesses is sometimes required to understand people's sudden unusual behaviors, or yours. You meet someone to whom you are powerfully drawn, a person with whom you can be completely open and comfortable, and who seems to feel the same way with you. Moreover, you will experience a marked sense of relief that you are not to blame for their mood swings and often hurtful behavior. Yet, it is crucial for both our own sake, as well as that of our partner, to recognize when such a problem exists. Dar, odată ce ești mai aproape de centru pe axa comportamentelor (și mai departe de extreme), poți învăța să te vindeci și singur, ca cineva care învață să meargă cu un șchiopătat (cum se spune în ultimul capitol, căruia i-aș da 5*).