Be Your Future Self Now: The Science of Intentional Transformation

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Just realize that your view of what God is definitely will affect how you think about and behave toward your Future Self, and the difference can be striking. But, as Dr. Hardy writes: “Each person should be fully respected in what they choose to believe about God, about life, and about themselves. We are all extremely ignorant and limited in our current perspectives, and our Future Selves will see things from a more elevated state."

The longer you hesitate to enter the playing field, the longer you delay the essential learning curve. You cannot deliberately practice on the sidelines. When you’re not in the arena, you’re failing by default

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Expose yourself to new and better ways of acting, being, seeing, and thinking. In every situation, regardless of what you’ve done in the past, there is always the possibility to do otherwise. There is always potential for conscious choosing. Book Notes: “Be public about your Future Self, and you’ll immediately stop being consistent with your past.” This goes for anything. You don't need to know exactly what you're going to say to your child when you go into their room and ask them about what they were doing after school. You don't need to have some pristine workout plan all laid out before you go to the gym for the first time. You just need to go. You just need to start the conversation. You just need to get started. You just need to ship. STEP #6: Schedule Your Future Self "Your time is the clearest indicator of your commitment. You can’t hide how you spend your time. To improve freedom of money, relationships, and purpose, own your freedom of Time. To have freedom of time, take ownership of your schedule. Prioritize what matters most, and eliminate what does not. The more you take ownership of your time and attention, the simpler and easier to realize your Future Self. If, however, your time is continually overrun with lesser goals and other people's agendas, then your desired Future Self will be frustrated." People naturally avoid investing in loss. It’s comfortable doing something you can already do. Winning feels good. But if you want to aggressively become your Future Self, then investing in loss is how you get there.

It actually looks a little bit like Dante's path in the Divine Comedy, where he first descended into the deepest depths of Hell, rose through Purgatory, and then ascended into Paradise. The Threats, Truths, and Steps work almost in the same way. So, let me be your Virgil as we travel the path to your Future Self. The longer you hesitate to enter the playing field, the longer you delay the essential learning curve. You cannot deliberately practice on the sidelines. When you're not in the arena, you're failing by default. Outside the arena may feel safe, but it's the most dangerous place you could be. While outside, you remain ignorant of your own ignorance. You may be an armchair philosopher on whatever subject you're interested in, but you're not becoming a pro. Staying on the sidelines leads to a life of regrets."The lesson is that investing in loss is how you become a winner over time. Seek out stretch goals that are just above what you're capable of overcoming right now, and you will grow into the Future Self capable of working through them. Without pushing yourself, though, that desirable future will be forever closed to you. Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." -Viktor Frankl Develop goals that are five years out, and prioritise those big goals before the urgent daily battles. To combat this threat, you need two things: a will, and a way. You need to possess the will to create meaning in your future (and thus your present), and you need to have faith that you will find a way. According to Dr. Roy Baumeister and Dr. Kathleen Vohs, preeminent psychologists on the psychology of meaning, “Present events draw meaning from their connection to future outcomes.” Any human action or experience loses meaning when disconnected to future outcomes or consequences. Nothing exists in a vacuum.

The gain happens when you transform every experience into personal growth. No matter what occurs, frame the experience as a gain. Proactively and consciously learn from your experiences, and become better, not bitter, as a result.The point of this story is that my Future Self is a much better boxer than my Current Self. Crucially, however, if my Current Self only fights people who are at my level, then I'll never improve. Importantly, building a connection to your Future Self requires seeing your Future Self as a different person from who you are today. STEP #3: Elevate from Needing to Wanting to Knowing “When you know something is yours, you act differently than if you don't know. A salesperson who knows they are going to make a sale behaves differently than the salesperson who wants to make a sale. If a person knows they're going to get up the next morning and go to the gym, they'll be different from the person who simply wants to. Knowing is an inner experience, a state of acceptance." Different questions spark innovative thinking and new angles. Psychologist and spiritual teacher Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “When you change the way you see things, the things you see change.” When you change what you’re looking for, you change what you see. Being driven by fear is a lower state of consciousness than being driven by courage and vision. Deep emotional development is required to transition beyond fear as your driver to levels of acceptance, courage, and love as reasons for action."

I also love the words of Lewis, that, “There are no ordinary people.” This view of God enables me to look at every person with awe and amazement. Given your current context, what is the absolute most important thing you could achieve or realize right now? We all have a future ahead of us. In 10 years, 20 years, and more, we will become our Future Selves. Why don’t successful people and organisations automatically become very successful? One important explanation is due to what I call “the clarity paradox,” which can be summed up in four predictable phases: The 4th Threat to your Future Self is not being connected to them. You will not be able to proactively create the life you want if you’re not connected to your Future Self.Sure, I could fight people with roughly the same level of skill as I have, but then I would never reach my full potential. As an amateur, I was willing to "invest in loss" (Hardy's term) and seek out "desireable difficulties" in my training. Nothing you produce will be perfect. Everything you produce will be from the limited perspective of where you are in a given moment.